Topic: The Intregrated Life Blog

9 Steps to Extreme Self Care: A Valentines Gift To You

Posted on by Karen Moore (formerly Karen Pierce)

“Give of Yourself!”
“Don’t Be Selfish!”
“Look out for Others!”
“Don’t think of Yourself First!”

Sheesh! No wonder these kinds admonishments we heard as children can serve to keep us feeling guilty if we focus on taking care of ourselves well.

Cinderella gave everything of her time, energy, and attention to her step-mother and step-sisters, in addition to wearing rags, and sleeping by the fireplace! Was there more for her to give? I suppose she could have bled on the hearth, too.

Ultimately, one way to look at it is that for Cinderella’s selflessness she was rewarded by getting the cool shoes, the handsome prince, and the grand slam major cool ride. (I guess you could say Cinderella really started early transformer technology with the pumpkin to carriage capabilities!) But one unspoken message here could be: “Look what happens if you’re a doormat!”

Old McDonald was a workaholic and had lots of stock he could sing about […]

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Magnetize and Attract Your Spouse

Posted on by Karen Moore (formerly Karen Pierce)

Hello!

Magnetize Your Spouse

Today we’re talking about how to keep the attraction mojo going on in your relationship.

Have you ever been in a heated argument with your spouse and you just can’t understand why the argument leads to the same place, same frustrating feelings, the same thoughts that you’d “be better off not exposing yourself to this level of aggrevation, upset, or discord”, and “maybe it would be better to get out of the relationship because this is just too painful to keep repeating”? You probably really love this person, or have in the past, but you didn’t expect to have these kinds of arguments, experience this level of misunderstanding, and feel this alone in this relationship.

So you both turn away from each other.

You’re not alone. This is a common reaction.

What can you do to avoid the repetition of this cycle, and magnetize your spouse instead of repelling and being […]

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How to Cope: Desist, Resist, Step Away!

Posted on by Karen Moore (formerly Karen Pierce)

Robin Williams

Robin Williams’ tragic death, and war and world events in the Middle East have sent people into a tail spin. My phone has been busy with clients seeking solace and advice for the situational depression they are feeling. Mr. Williams’ death has seemingly been the straw that broke the camel’s back for some. Some are afraid that USA will experience an invasion and are worried, anxious, and ill-at-ease. What to do? How to cope?

Evil hates beauty, and lightness, and generosity. Fear, anger, and hate feeds evil. One only has to allow themselves to watch all the violence on television, listen to others’ negative viewpoints or emotions, or read all the darkness present in the world in a newspaper to spiral downward in emotion and have doubt, fear, and depression take over.

The world needs strength, joy, lightness, generosity, kindness, gentleness, and most of all, love shared, acknowledged, and […]

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Cutting Your Nose Off To Spite Your Face

Posted on by Karen Moore (formerly Karen Pierce)

It’s All About Perspective

Hello:

Today I want to talk about how to open your heart in relationships with others whom you may not know, but could potentially have a great connection with that could bring you much joy and greater abundance in community relatedness.

As a psychotherapist, no doubt you know that I have “heard it all” in terms of what causes the unhappiness in peoples’ lives. Too often I hear stories from clients who have experienced negativity directed toward them from someone whom they haven’t known, have just met, and experience that first meeting as a surprise negative jolt. On a continuum, their experience is anything from the other person merely looking the other way when introduced, to outright hostility. It feels, no matter what the behavior of the newly acquainted person is at the first meeting, like being kicked in the stomach, or stabbed in the heart, or […]

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Martin Luther King’s Message for Individual and Relationship Happiness

Posted on by Karen Moore (formerly Karen Pierce)
Martin Luther King’s Message for Individual and Relationship Happiness

Martin Luther King’s Message for Individual and Relationship Happiness

I wonder if Martin Luther King knew how much the themes of his message would be helpful for our inner world, or how much his message is significant to achieving a great long-term relationship.

Believe In Yourself

He wanted racial equality for everyone, no matter his or her skin color.

As a neuropositivity coach who teaches people how to grow a permanent positive mindset, and helps people achieve a long lasting satisfying relationship, I can see the wisdom of applying Martin Luther King’s principles to ourselves.

We cannot love another person until we learn how to make ourselves happy, and love ourselves–every part of us.

Lasting happiness in life and relationships requires that we have a willingness to look within ourselves to what we don’t like, whatever the appearance (jealousy, shame, grief, deceit, etc.) and not segregate it off, ignore it, […]

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