The Integrated Life Blog | The Integrative Heart Healing Center - Part 4

Cutting Your Nose Off To Spite Your Face

It’s All About Perspective

Hello:

Today I want to talk about how to open your heart in relationships with others whom you may not know, but could potentially have a great connection with that could bring you much joy and greater abundance in community relatedness.

As a psychotherapist, no doubt you know that I have “heard it all” in terms of what causes the unhappiness in peoples’ lives. Too often I hear stories from clients who have experienced negativity directed toward them from someone whom they haven’t known, have just met, and experience that first meeting as a surprise negative jolt. On a continuum, their experience is anything from the other person merely looking the other way when introduced, to outright hostility. It feels, no matter what the behavior of the newly acquainted person is at the first meeting, like being kicked in the stomach, or stabbed in the heart, or […]

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Martin Luther King’s Message for Individual and Relationship Happiness

Martin Luther King’s Message for Individual and Relationship Happiness

Martin Luther King’s Message for Individual and Relationship Happiness

I wonder if Martin Luther King knew how much the themes of his message would be helpful for our inner world, or how much his message is significant to achieving a great long-term relationship.

Believe In Yourself

He wanted racial equality for everyone, no matter his or her skin color.

As a neuropositivity coach who teaches people how to grow a permanent positive mindset, and helps people achieve a long lasting satisfying relationship, I can see the wisdom of applying Martin Luther King’s principles to ourselves.

We cannot love another person until we learn how to make ourselves happy, and love ourselves–every part of us.

Lasting happiness in life and relationships requires that we have a willingness to look within ourselves to what we don’t like, whatever the appearance (jealousy, shame, grief, deceit, etc.) and not segregate it off, ignore it, […]

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Increase Happiness in Your Relationship This Week

“Why can’t he see that I need his help with the children when he comes home from work without my having to ask him for help? And why can’t he be more affectionate and let me know that I’m important?”

Invariably in my coaching and psychotherapy practice when I meet with a couple I hear this complaint on a first visit from the wife (unless the husband is the primary caregiver) if the couple have children.

Also invariably, the husband will respond to this complaint with:
“Why can’t she see that I need time to decompress from my work day when I come through the door for a short period of time instead of starting in on me to help her? And why can’t she first give me a kiss and tell me how much I’m appreciated?

What is usually underneath these complaints are three things:
1) Both husband and wife are overtired.
2) Neither person […]

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How To Stay In Love

How To Stay In Love

Have you met the person of your dreams, and are hoping the sparks won’t fizzle? Perhaps you already have the “best thing that ever happened to you” in your life, and want to help keep the magic alive. Or maybe it’s time to add a little spark to your current relationship. Here you’ll find some ideas on how to get and keep the magic in your relationship.

Staying in love is easy if you’re willing to implement the following steps to help create and maintain a more fulfilling relationship-a relationship that grows even closer with time on an ever-deepening scale.

Develop a compassionate and loving attitude toward yourself so that you can be compassionate and loving with your partner. Self love must come first before you can truly love another. When you give yourself permission to do things that help you feel fulfilled, you will be able to give to others from […]

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